It’s never a woman’s fault when a man look at her with lust

Based on Jesus Christ’s words in Matthew 5:27 that says “You have heard that it was said, “You shall not commit adultery.” But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. It should never be a woman’s fault or sin when a man looks at her with lust. The man sinned against God when he looks at a woman lustfully.

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If a woman intentionally wears a clothing so that men would lust for her, then she sinned against God. The woman is accountable to God, not men or to anyone.

In the Quran, Muslim women are told to cover themselves with a headscarf to not expose the chest part, although some women don’t follow it, depending how conservative a country or city is. Ideally, it should never be forced on women.

Even in some Christian groups, some define righteousness by the length of the hair or how long the skirt is.

Blaming a woman for a man’s lust for her would proliferate a blaming mindset. The blaming mindset if unchecked would become a culture.

When we make a mistake in another area, like in an office setting, for example a supervisor gave a task and we made a mistake, we instead blame another co-worker for the our own mistake.

The Parable of the Talent

In the Message bible, it’s entitled as “The Story About Investment”. It’s basically really about investment. Although it’s popularly called the Parable of the Talent. Talent is a monetary currency in Israel at the time.

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Matthew 25:14-30
14-18 “It’s also like a man going off on an extended trip. He called his servants together and delegated responsibilities. To one he gave five thousand dollars, to another two thousand, to a third one thousand, depending on their abilities. Then he left. Right off, the first servant went to work and doubled his master’s investment. The second did the same. But the man with the single thousand dug a hole and carefully buried his master’s money.
19-21 “After a long absence, the master of those three servants came back and settled up with them. The one given five thousand dollars showed him how he had doubled his investment. His master commended him: ‘Good work! You did your job well. From now on be my partner.’

22-23 “The servant with the two thousand showed how he also had doubled his master’s investment. His master commended him: ‘Good work! You did your job well. From now on be my partner.’

24-25 “The servant given one thousand said, ‘Master, I know you have high standards and hate careless ways, that you demand the best and make no allowances for error. I was afraid I might disappoint you, so I found a good hiding place and secured your money. Here it is, safe and sound down to the last cent.’

26-27 “The master was furious. ‘That’s a terrible way to live! It’s criminal to live cautiously like that! If you knew I was after the best, why did you do less than the least? The least you could have done would have been to invest the sum with the bankers, where at least I would have gotten a little interest.

28-30 “‘Take the thousand and give it to the one who risked the most. And get rid of this “play-it-safe” who won’t go out on a limb. Throw him out into utter darkness.’

In the story – the master invested a certain amount of money to his workers each according to his ability. I believe this “ability” isn’t just about skills or hardwork, but also about the character of the worker.

The master gave 5,000 and 2,000 dollars to the first and second worker respectively, and 1,000 to the third. I believe the third one isn’t the best employee and the master knows this. But still he delegated an amount, giving him a chance to prove himself one last time.

Investment is not just about money. But also about health, decisions, wife, husband, education just about everything. And this is for all for the King and the Kingdom.

Although there are Christians who criticize other Christians who uses this Bible verse on economic prosperity. I disagree with these type of close-minded Christians. This is also about economic prosperity or about investing in a literal business.

There are basically two types of investment – good and bad – but for us Christians, there is no good or bad, only lessons. The bad will turn into good sooner or later.

What was my bad and good investment? There are a lot. But I will tell you one for each.

My bad investment would be when I chose architecture as my course in college. I was more of an art person, but mistakenly took architecture. I basically wasted my parents’ money. Wrong decisions would often lead to not so good consquences.

It’s not easy telling what my good investment was, funny, but it’s true.But I think getting to stock market investing last July of this year was probably a good investment.

Again, investment is not just about money, but also health, education and so on just I have mentioned above.

Health – my food diet now consists of vegetables. When I was a child, I hated vegetables like a plague. Cancer and other diseases occur in our bodies because of the wrong choice of food we eat regularly.

Education – make sure the course you’re taking is something that you love to do or intend to become as a doctor or architect in the future. Better study hard, don’t be such as lazy dork or you’ll become a dumb professional or employee.

Relationship – when looking for wife or husband it is best that the partner will multiply you as person. If you are good at something, for example you are good in singing, your wife or husband encourages you in every way.

Even having a friend or friends, it’s ideal that they’re a good influence to make us better.

Money management – When I bought my DSLR camera, I didn’t just buy for leisure or hobby, I bought so I could make money out of it. As a bonus, I also do it for hobby and leisure. This is investment.

Jesus expects us to multiply positively, not the negative, until he comes back.

How to Increase one’s EQ?

Emotional qoutient or emotional intelligence was coined by Daniel Goleman. It is the ability to distinguish one’s and other people’s emotion and behavior, and then use this to control one’s emotion for personal development.

This is my method in improving my emotional intelligence, and I didn’t read any “how to’s” from others. Mine is organic in nature.

It started when I became interested in psychology back in college.

1. Read psychology books. Since behavior and emotional awareness became an interest when I got into one of my psychology subject in college, so I advice that you get interested in psychology too.

2. Self honesty. When you observe other’s behavior and emotion whether good or not, please make an honest assesment about yourself. If you found a not so good emotion or behavior make an effort to change.

3. Read the Bible. The Bible is the best book mirror you could find. The Bible is not a religious book, it is a mirror. I became more aware of myself as keep reading it.

I hope this can help you increase your emotional intelligence.

You may also watch this short video of Harvard management professor Bill George talk about the Importance of EQ over IQ

Christians Who Left the Faith

I will specifically be speaking about three evangelical Christians who were active in their respective ministries, but surprisingly left the Faith. I’m absolutely sure there are thousands like them, and when I searched Google, I saw many of them, ordained ministers then became atheists or agnotics.

But in this article, I will talk about Dan Barker, George Perdikis and Jerome Suson, and I will cite reasons why they left. I maybe wrong with my opinion, but I based it on my personal observations and analysis.

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1. Dan Barker. He was a minister and musician for 19 years, then became an atheist in 1984.

I first learned about him through Ray Comfort’s Facebook post. And according to Comfort, he emailed Barker telling him about how “good he was of hiding his true belief” all those years.

His criticim about Christianity: “How happy can you be when you think every action and thought is being monitored by a judgmental ghost?”

What I think he left the Christian faith?: Either he did not have a personal relationship with Christ, he just “joined” the Christian religion.

Well, majority of Christianity just “joined” but do not really have a born-again experience (not the born-again group).

2. George Perdikis. One of the founding members of the Christian rock band Newsboys recently came out as an atheist in a Patheos post in January 21 of this year. Newsboys’ song was used in the movie God’s Not Dead, although he already embraced atheism in 2007.

His criticim about Christianity: “The Christian music scene is populated by many people who act as though they have a direct hotline to a God who supplies them with the answers to the Universe. There seems to be more ego and narcissism amongst Christian musicians than their secular counterparts.”

What I think he left the Christian faith?: He probably was not really a Christian when he joined the band, or maybe he was, but was disappointed to witness Christians who aren’t practicing their faith.

3. Jerome Suson. A Filipino musician and composer who hails from Surigao City. I’ve heard and sang in church some of his songs, mostly in Cebuano lyrics, not knowing that it was him who composed it. This man can be considered a musical icon amongst Christian circles.

I only heard from a friend about his leaving the faith. Allegedly, he is an “anti-Christ” as my friend described him. So I sent him a message on his Facebook to specifically asked about his stance, but he did not reply.

I went to his Facebook profile and read some of his posts. I can’t tell if he is an atheist, anti-Christ or agnostic.

His criticim about Christianity: He criticizes Jesus Christ and the New Testament books. Basically, he does not believe that Jesus is the Christ.

But he also post admirations of Israel and the Jews. I think he has a Judaic beliefs.

What I think he left the Christian faith?: His foundation about his faith was built on a sand as Jesus said in Matthew 7:24-27.

According to my source, he was curious about interesting and controversial articles he found online, mostly with anti-Christianity message.

Common reason why they left the Christian faith. All three of them are musicians. A lot of musicians in the Christian faith lack the study of the Bible on a higher level.

I think they thought playing music for God is enough, and reading the Bible is just secondary.

So when problems, testing and other teachings get into their minds, their foundation crumbles, and replaced by the “other” teachings contrary to the faith.


Good versus Evil in the Real World

Good versus Evil in the movies and video games wherein the Good is portrayed as a lush tree full of leaves and fruits planted in paradise-like world, while Evil is symbolized as a dead leafless tree in a desert in twilight.

In the movies, examples are Lord of the Rings, Epic (animation), in video games – DOTA. All Evil do is wreak havoc and spread its destruction as wide as possible.

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Unfortunately, these metaphors are literally happening in the real world today. Terrorists kill unarmed civilians who were begging for mercy. Destroy historic structures and ancient artworks. For us, it may appear that these terrorists are doing it for no reason just like in the movies. Although, the terror is just the fruit of the seeds (or the words) planted into their minds.

Jesus said, “I am the Way, the Truth, and the Life” (John 14:6). The Evil in the real world is an exact opposite of Jesus Christ.

Those who choose his Way, will find the Truth, and will live a Life. Life not just in the spirit, but also physically, financially, mentally, and all according to his promises.

If an individual believes in Jesus and does according to His commandments, the Life he is living will also spread to his community. So that Community will live a Life, and so politically speaking that community is developed and progressive.

While a community that is opposed to Jesus Christ and his followers, is a Life of destruction and chaos.

I choose Life. I choose Christ.

Investing in the Stock Market

This was probably a life-long dream of entering into the stock market. Since I was a teenager, I’ve been wanting to be part of this. But was apprehensive because it looked too high for me.

When I learned that any Filipino with a P5,000 pesos, can now join the stock market. I said to myself, this is it. This is the right time.

What I did was learn about the stock market, by watching videos, and of course by reading books.

I even ordered one by Marvin Germo, his second book entitled, “Winning Strategies for Investing”. It’s P495 plus shipping fee of 120 for provincial deliveries or a total of P615. I have never spent this price for a book before.

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I believe before entering into any endeavor, every person should have enough knowledge. I’ve been into small business in the past, but had lack of knowledge, so the business failed.

Even Robert Kiyosaki have pointed out this mistake usually done by small businesses.

Next month, I will be opening an account at ColFinancial. I’m excited.

Why should Pinoys be Wary of "liberal" Politicians?

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This article was written because of the recent massacre of the 44 PNP-SAF and how President Noynoy handles it and his dealings with Islamic terror in the Philippines.

It’s solely from my own perception and observation in my readings of United States politics. So I just show similarities of Obama and Aquino. Obama is a Democrat which is a liberal party.

Most Filipino voters just choose the candidates based on popularity, experience and platform. But more on popularity. The Pinoy voters just don’t mind the political party’s name.

The Liberal Party is not just a party. It’s more than just a namesake to symbolize “freedom from oppression”. It’s not even “freedom of oppression”.

Liberalism is an ideology, a belief, a movement.

Barack Obama and President Pnoy has some similarities, especially in dealing with Islamic terrorists.

Giving money to terrorists
Pnoy admitted to giving P5 million to MILF in 2011 as “donation”.

Obama announced in 2014 that he would give annual donation of $400 million to the Palestinian Authority, but actually Hamas will receive it. Hamas is the terrorist group in Palestine fighting an arm resistance against Israel.

The Result?
The recent death of 44 special police unit in Maguindanao.

Hamas launches almost daily rocket attack towards Israel, and the building of tunnels.

All of us would love to have peace. Arm campaign by previous governments against the terrorists seems to have no effect on them. So a liberal politician like Pnoy is playing nice to them.

I personally would not deal with adults with broken brains. These Islamic terrorists would just pile up weapons for the next war.

Gay marriage and abortion is a liberal agenda
I have nothing against the use of contraceptives among married couples. But the RH Bill is the precursor to the abortion law that might happen in the years to come. It was the Liberal lawmakers who authored the RH bill.

Why would we make another contraceptive law when we already have a law legalizing the use of condoms and the like? Back in the 1980s, we were already taught sex education.

Lawmakers don’t just pour out in one setting a controversial law, they do it gradually by passing a lighter version of the bigger one. An example is the Slavery law in the US. Before it there was Indentured Servitude, a labor system for an immigrant who came to America and was placed under contract to work for another over a period of time, usually seven years, especially during the 17th to 19th centuries.

Filipino liberal lawmakers would surely make a law that is a forerunner to gay marriage. I hope that wont happen in my beloved Philippines.

Read my article about homosexuality.

A Car Mechanic earns more than a Bank Teller

In a world where we judge and most of the time treat people differently because of a person’s income.

We overlook a man because of his dirty clothes, but give a special seat to a man who appears rich. Even parents are guilty of unconsciously mistreating a son with lower income than a daughter who earns thousands of dollars a month.

I am writing this not because I’m “holier than you”, but yes I am more aware of this judging behavior than most people, but sometimes I miss and guilty of this.

We often have a perception that car mechanics are poorer than us, because they look poor on their dirty clothes.

But last week, I happened to converse with a car mechanic, he said it with pride that his wife and kids look like wealthier than him because of his job. He said car mechanics actually earn P20,000 and up a month. I didn’t let my surprise too obvious because he just shattered my stereotyping mind.

He told me, tinkering car engines has been his passion since he was a boy.

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Why are most Filipinos never specific?

I came across an article at entitled, The Philippines: First World Country but Third World People.

I would add my own opinion in that number 3 example.

I agree we are not specific. Or rather, we don’t have a proper system, even in our everyday life attitude or responses to the people we deal with.

When people what asks us time shall we go to an event, we reply “5pm siguro”.

Will you send the email tomorrow morning? Our usual reply, “9 or 10am siguro”

We are not firm and specific. We should be firm and specific.

This is the attitude that I’m trying to change the last few months after I watched a video of Black church vs the White church months ago.

In that video I learned something. The Filipinos have some similarities with the Black church in the video. Blacks don’t have a system or is disorganized, while the white church has one.

The Filipinos are economically poor, so are the majority of Black Americans. Because we lacked a system.

The article at ProPinoy and the video are both an eye opener for me. I should change and have a proper system in my everyday life, and the way I do business.

This is most likely one of  the reasons why I’m still not hitting my goals.

I have now divided my tasks. On Tuesdays and Fridays, it’s strictly my blog day. Before, I only blog when I feel like writing.

Next time somebody when will I show up to a certain meetup, I’d say 7pm!